We now live in a society that is a little more self-aware. By now, most of us have heard of systemic issues – problematic roadmaps for society that hurt some of us, instead of uplifting all of us. Peopl are a little like society that way. Life sets us all up on our own personal roadmap and sometimes, that roadmap keeps us stuck in a pattern that hurt us.

I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to follow that map anymore. We are all lost beings just trying to figure it all out. We can make our own maps to find the way home.

Last year, I took a family class where all the students had to draw out a genogram of our family tree. Drawing a genogram meant including pivotal life events that occurred within our families. We had to label events like divorce, death, marriage, immigration, or anything else that shifted the family dynamic. We were all put into groups and I was in a group with 8 other girls to discuss our genograms together. Girrrl, let me tell you how this group discussion became a cryfest. 

When we are put in a situation where we have to talk about family history through a personal lens, it opens the floodgates to old, forgotten wounds.

You start to learn about yourself and others on a deeper level than you would in an ordinary conversation. The pattern I saw when I was participating in this group discussion was that we all have experienced some kind of trauma or breakage in our souls from events that happened in childhood. Even this beautiful girl who once intimidated me, opened up about her father not giving her love or attention because of his job overseas. Here I was, thinking she was just a bitch-but no. Inner wounds, people!

I created The Rich Parent because I want all of us to feel like it’s not too late to heal our inner child. I want millennial parents to look within themselves; their adversities, their traumas, and understand that they have built-in resilience from that. I want to create the belief that our story and what we have to offer to this world are more than enough. I want us all to think abundantly of ourselves. 

It is time to stop thinking small and start looking at the bigger picture. It is time to see how important our pivotal moments were and how these life events shaped our identity. 

Let’s all be proud of our story. 

The Rich Parent Was Specifically Designed for YOU (and here’s why)

I am tired of looking around and seeing that so many of us feel inadequate. Most of us are bombarded with messages that, after reaching a certain age, if we did not follow or achieve certain things in our lives (like what social media depresses us with) that we have failed or did not do enough. As millennials, we were taught in childhood “a privileged” view of success. Well, let me tell you that not all of us were born privileged. We need to share more stories that celebrate the diversity of our narratives.

As we choose to shift our thinking and live more in tune with our own unique timeline, we will be healthier versions of ourselves. Let’s skip the narrative of what a privileged person deems “success” and reclaim our own authentic stories.

The Rich Parent is here to support and serve millennial parents who once felt broken, to help us re-navigate a better, more fulfilling life. Why? Because as millennials, we grew up in an idiosyncratic blend of the authoritarian ways our parents were used to and a transition into the age of self-help and mental health we now know in our adulthood.

Even when we want to be better to ourselves, many of us still have been conditioned since childhood into believing the “old school” mentality. As parents now, we are learning to shift the way we view parenting and parenting in a way that many of us wish we had for ourselves. 

In our childhoods, talking to our caregivers about our emotions wasn’t really a priority. A lot of topics related to our emotions or social contexts were taboo. Dealing with our emotions alone was hard as children, and it made many of us feel lonely. As we grew into our 30s, we had to transition into a new paradigm of nurturing our children. But many of us still harbor wounds from the old paradigm, and those wounds need to be addressed in order to heal. I feel like that is why anxiety, depression, stress, etc., are commonalities amongst our generation. It is time to put ourselves first and heal our inner child. 

If you longed for better guidance in childhood and want to start doing the work of healing your inner child, then this blog is for you. 

The Rich Parent Was Designed for Millennial Parents With An Inner Child They Still Need to Heal

I remember in elementary school, I had a teacher who once scolded me for not knowing how to read. When it was time to borrow textbooks, I remember being the only one who never received the shiny, clean grade 1 textbook because I didn’t “pass” my reading score. I remember the constant feeling of shame not wanting to even try anymore because of the limiting belief my teacher had of me. It got to the point where I began believing it myself. Discouragement and defeat were instilled in me at 6 years old. I had actually never shared this part of my life with anyone because it’s been so deeply rooted in my self-consciousness. 

Let’s all think about a time in childhood where we were told something that altered our way of thinking. Good or bad. These pivotal moments pave the way for how we deal with life as adults. These sensitive periods are the most crucial in determining what kind of lessons we learn, what might be engraved in us forever. 

Usually, our environments and caregivers are the main factors that can either raise us up or tear us down. 

If a child does not get support from a nurturing teacher, they, too, will experience anxiety in school like I did. they might even come to hate it. In the ’90s, teachers were allowed to yell at children or make them face the door as punishment. I faced the door sooo many times because of my “incompetence” to learn. It probably could have been due to so many factors but the punishment was what I got. I’m glad that this isn’t the case anymore and teachers today are more sensitive to children and their needs.

Whether we like it or not, like continues to move on. Whatever we took away from childhood can be reprogrammed. That being said, there is beauty in opening yourself up to what your inner child is saying to you, in taking the time to heal old wounds and let our truest selves shine through.

Let’s do this.